Does “help meet” mean the little wifey back home?

I wonder how many girls have grown up in Christian homes and Christian churches who’ve never been taught what “help meet” actually means in Genesis 2:20.

I’ve only just realized what it means myself and it gave me quite a shock, because the traditional Christian view of “help meet” is nothing like what the Hebrew words mean. I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised in a traditionally male-dominated church that the truth hasn’t got out, but what if men have been missing out too because their wives never understood what God created them to be?

Obviously the wife’s role is crucial because God stated outright that the man on his own couldn’t do the job he’d been given to do. He needed “a suitable helper,” which in the Hebrew is an ezer kenegdo.

In short ezer means a wife is a lifesaver to her husband, and kenegdo means she is his equal. And the best example for me of such an ezer kenegdo wife in scripture is Zipporah, the Midianite wife of Moses.

And if anyone should have been the typical meek, submissive “little wifey back home” of Christian tradition, it was Zipporah. She was the wife of an Egyptian prince who’d been brought up in the high society of Pharaoh’s palace and was now the leader of Israel, the one nation on the planet that God had personally chosen to work his plan through. And Zipporah wasn’t even an Israelite either, so she could be well excused for staying in the shadows and not saying a peep.

But when God threatened to take her husband’s life, out came the ezer in her. She was no drooping wallflower of typical Christian tradition when she saw her husband in conversation with God and she knew he was in deep trouble. She knew why too. Moses had been shirking his duties toward their son, by putting off having him circumcised, a total no-no for the leader of Israel when the sign of God’s personal dealings with Israel was circumcision.

So there and then she sliced off her son’s foreskin and chucked it in Moses’ direction yelling. “You bloody husband you, look what you made me do to save your life, buddy.” She stood up to him, every bit his equal, which must be a real shocker to Christian tradition that God didn’t correct her. Instead he let go of Moses and spared his life.

Why? Because Zipporah was being the ezer kenegdo he’d created wives to be. She stepped in when her husband was down and saved his life. And how many other husbands would readily and thankfully admit that’s what their wives have done for them too?

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